I was way overdue
for a haircut, and my birthday is coming up, so I decided it was time for a
visit to Val. I’ve turned into kind of a cheapskate when it comes to haircuts
since I stopped coloring my hair over two years ago. Which means that I usually
pop in to the beauty school or the nearest salon running a special when my ends
start looking straggly. And I openly admit that my last haircut was done by
none other than yours truly.
My boys were with their dad for the weekend, so Friday
evening seemed like a prime opportunity to attend to my shabby hair in
Sugarhouse with my favorite stylist. Val has been making my hair look gorgeous
since 2000. Every time I try to branch out and have my hair done by someone
new, I always gravitate back to Val. He just has the gift. His salon has this
really eclectic, chic atmosphere, and I love talking to him and I always walk
out feeling like my hair looks like a million bucks. Friday night, he worked
his magic again. I left with a polished trim and some seriously sassy bangs.
Thank you, Val!

The night was still young. I was hungry and had some
shopping to do. I did a quick brain scan of all the cool local eateries I knew
of. Noodles & Co. Finn’s. The Soup Kitchen. Good options. But I was feeling
adventurous and wanted to try someplace new. Like a flash, I realized:
Omar’s Rawtopia. I’ve been carrying around a takeout menu from this place since 2009
and a chance encounter when I stopped in for directions. I was so impressed
with the vibe and the menu (the place totally hits my health-nut-hippie bone)
that I’ve carried it around ever since, telling myself that someday I
would get around to eating there. But up until Friday, I hadn’t remembered to
go there when I was thinking of things to do, or it seemed too far away because
I was living in Utah County and hardly ever went to Salt Lake without my
kiddos.
So Friday night, the timing couldn’t have been better. It
was date night, and if there’s one cool place I would want to take my date to
impress her, it was Omar’s. And I was
impressed. Aside from a rather awkward initial greeting from the
hostess/waitress, the whole experience was lovely. There were no tables
immediately available, so I sipped on an Organic Herbal Tea while I waited and
read over the menu. One of the gentlemen working behind the counter caught my
eye, smiled, and said, “You look so healthy.” He may has well have said I
looked like an angel, the way his words came out, with so much love. It felt
like he had given me the highest compliment in the world. I thanked him and
said that I try to be healthy. “I
think it’s on the inside,” he responded. The he gestured to his face and said,
“You have a glow.”
WOW. I knew Val was good, but not that good!
When I was seated at my table, in the corner by the window,
sun setting, sipping the remainder of my tea, I had a very confident,
sophisticated feeling come over me. Mature. I felt deeply grateful to be in a
place in my life where I can take myself out on a date and be completely,
comfortably single. It felt (feels) so
good. This may be the first time in my life where I have felt this way for an
extended period of time… like, beyond just one day or two.
I don’t know where it came from or how it started, and maybe
those details aren’t important to identify. But from as young as I can
remember, I had an overwhelming need to be in love, and a constant craving for
someone to love me in return. I went from crush to crush. I wasn’t always in a
relationship; in fact, I didn’t date a whole lot before I got married. I
learned a lot about myself during those years of marriage, and after our
divorce, I made a conscious decision not
to jump right into any serious relationships. I knew I needed to take my time,
both to allow myself to heal, and to get to know a lot of people and find out what
I really wanted in a partner. And I think I have done a pretty good job of
that.
But recently I realized that even though I’ve come a long
way in the last three years, there was still a neediness in me. A feeling of
being incomplete. And the very Friday that I was on my little date, I read this
quote, and I pondered it while sitting at my cozy table in the corner window at
Omar’s:
“According to Greek mythology, humans were originally
created with four arms, four legs, and a head with two faces. Fearing their
power, Zeus split them into two separate parts, condemning them to spend their
lives in search of their other halves.” -Unknown
I’ve felt that way. That quote. It’s wistful and romantic. I
think we have all wanted to believe at one point or another that there is
someone out there who will complete us. But here I am, single, and for the
first time in my life, I don’t have that void, that neediness. I have no desire
to be off in search of my other half, or sought after by some person who I need
to “complete” me. I don’t need to find someone to fill the void that is the
need to be in love.
Instead, I’m living a
life I can be in love with. Finding out what it means to be comfortably
single. To not be in a relationship
or on the edges of one, and feel totally at peace with that. Feel whole and
complete, just me, on my own.
I had no idea it
would be this much fun!
Dinner at Omar’s was delightful. Just reading the
menu
tickles me, because “love” is included as an ingredient in every dish. I
ordered the Sweet Basil Salad/Raw Pasta combination dinner. I had already dug
into the salad before I had the presence of mind to stop and take a picture. It
looked like it had been prepared
with love. It was fresh and flavorful and with every bite I could imagine my
body soaking up the goodness, all the yummy nutrients, and sighing “Thank you”
with pleasure.
I couldn’t help noticing as I ate that the man who had
complimented me from behind the counter was walking around and talking to
people like he owned the place. It occurred to me that he might be the Omar of Omar’s Rawtopia. And if
that were the case, I wanted to thank him personally, because not only had he
treated me like royalty, he runs an impressive little joint. My intuition was
accurate. I asked Omar if I could interview him for my blog. He was happy to
oblige, as long as I didn’t mind him preparing food while we talked. I stood
across the counter and for five minutes, chatted with him about where he got the
idea for a place like this.
Here’s his amazing story: Omar was a successful engineer
with a great future ahead of him when his dad became very ill with cancer. In
2004 Omar had a vision, and after his father passed away, Omar decided to open
a restaurant where healthy food would be available as an option to people in a
world where everything has become processed and man-made. He wanted to give the
gift of nourishing, sustainable, organic, raw food. “God’s food,” as he calls
it. The restaurant has been in operation since 2005. Omar says his food, with
the colors, textures, flavors, and nutrients, awaken the chakras and bring us
into greater balance with the universe, allowing us to experience more harmony
and love in our lives, and in turn, share that with the world. He teaches
continuing education at the University of Utah. His recipes are both his own,
as well as collaborations with his mom and some of his employees.
Omar said, “I’m an instrument, and this place is like a
lighthouse that gathered all of us.” (He gestured to me, and himself, and his
employees, and all of his customers as he said this.) I asked him if he had a
message for my readers. He said: “It’s time for all of us to live in our
hearts. Don’t buy into shame, guilt and blame. Just be yourself. The world
needs you, exactly as you are.”
I walked out to my car, wondering at the stunning insights I
had observed about myself and my life that night, and the way Omar’s words tied
in so perfectly with my own thoughts. What amazing things can happen when you
open yourself up to love and light. When you make the decision to love yourself. When you decide to stop
envying other people and instead emulate the qualities you most admire in them.
When you realize that you are the
only person you have to live with all the time, and treat yourself accordingly.
When you decide to stop hating your body and instead make peace with it. When
you figure out that it is not someone else’s job to make you happy. When you
take responsibility for your life, recognize that you are the one who created
your circumstances, and you are the one with the power to change them.
I’m not telling you any of these stories about myself
because I need you to know these things about
me. I’m telling you these things because I hope that somewhere in
my stories, something resonates with
you.
Something triggers you, gives you a flash of inspiration, helps you see
yourself or your life or the world in a new way. “Every story is a love story.”
All My Passions is about finding joy in life. I hope I’m offering you a place
to discover that, and a place to learn, and a place to heal, and a place to
find out how to love yourself the way you truly deserve to be loved. It might
be the greatest gift you have to offer yourself and the key to having the
happy, loving relationships you desire (and deserve.) I’m no expert, but this
place where I’m at in my life? It sure feels good.
Anyway. If you haven’t figured it out, I don’t know how to
tell a short story. It’s a gift and a curse for a writer. I polished off my Friday
evening with my free
birthday gift from Sephora, a new orange nailpolish, and
testing out orange lipstick (supposedly that’s very “in” right now.) I couldn’t
quite find the right shade… but I’m having so much fun dating myself, I just
might have to tell you what happened the next day…
In another post.
Because this one has gone on for long enough.